People usually describe solo polyamory as a stage rather than a life. Mostly, they frame it as something you do between primary partners, or after one, or while you wait to become somebody’s person. That description is wrong, and it is expensive. It shapes how landlords, families and new partners treat the arrangement. And it…
The first thing long distance polyamory teaches you is that a calendar can be a love language. Two people who live forty minutes apart can make a Tuesday of it. Two people who live four hundred miles apart cannot. Every hour they spend together has to be argued for, paid for, and written down in…
Practical guide to dating apps, writing honest profiles, and navigating disclosure conversations as an ethically non-monogamous person.
If you are searching for how to start polyamory, you have probably already done the hardest part without noticing it. Somewhere along the way you stopped assuming that one relationship has to hold everything a life contains. What is left is logistics and nerve: what to say, to whom, and where to find people who…
A metamour is your partner’s other partner. That is the whole definition, and it is the only one you need in order to begin. The word names a relationship you did not choose and cannot dissolve, one that exists because two people you care about chose each other. It sits at the exact center of…
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably wondered about polyamory at some point. Maybe you’ve heard the term and felt a tingle of curiosity—or confusion—or perhaps even fear. Maybe you’re in a relationship and wondering if there’s more than one way to love. Or maybe you’ve been hu
Definition Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy in which people openly engage in multiple romantic and/or emotional relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. The word comes from the Greek poly meaning “many” and the Latin amor meaning “love,” literally translating to “many loves.” Unlike cheating or infidelity,…